"By the way, dating during COVID-19 is like music chairs," says Vicky, a 38-year-old curator from Scotland. & # 39; Whoever you met while closing is the one you're stuck with. & # 39;
There is no silver lining for the coronavirus outbreak. People are scared and sick and are uncertain about what's to come. And it's the exact uncertainty and a desire for comfort that makes them do some pretty good things, such as finally being "What are we doing?" to send? text. A few weeks after quarantine, individuals everywhere drew the courage to finally confess their feelings. Below, ELLE.com spoke to three different women who have recently taken their romantic relationships to the next level, all because of our strange new reality.
& # 39; We met at Hinge, and our first date was in December. He is really funny and dumb and appreciates the fact that I am really independent. We went out, met each other's friends, met each other's family, but there was no label.
For the past two weeks we have decided that we should make it official. I think it was because of all the stressors – I lost my grandmother recently too – and it made us realize that we wanted to be together. Because it's so new and we've decided to commit, it's really bizarre. My relationship is between us, but because of coronavirus it affects everyone.
I can work from home right now, but he will still work since he is in the Air Force's National Guard. I have two roommates, and they expressed concern that I was going to see him, because he was still going to work. I try to respect my roommates, but I also want to see him, and I don't know how long it's going to last. I avoid it at this point, so now we don't see each other. We also live in different states, and his state can decide whether to quit or mine, and I don't want to be stuck. I haven't dated anyone in so long, and then I finally do, and I can't.
But I think it made us stronger. We FaceTime a lot; our communication was very good. It made us appreciate wanting to be with each other. With the virus that happened, it was like, & # 39; Okay, what are we doing? & # 39; Let's connect because we do not know what the future holds. Let us take control of something we can control and be together. It's nice to have that support, but I also think men generally aren't as concerned as this.
When it's all over, I hope we can go back to normal and see each other for what it was before. How long can it last, and will it affect our feelings about each other or our relationship? We are still very new, and this interrupted the fun part of the event. & # 39;
& # 39; I went out with & # 39; man for about two months before the novel coronavirus came to New York. We were having dinner and visiting museums. We spent Friday nights at jazz clubs and Saturday afternoons. Central Park. He was sweet and caring, and I found myself falling for him. But I wasn't sure what the city's almost total closure would mean for our relationship. Would I see him? Would we talk on the phone? Or would we quarantine together? I hoped that the crisis was not the end for us.
It turned out to be just the beginning. We made plans to hang out at my apartment, and he spent the weekend and the following week as well. We fetched extra clothes for him at Target and got food together. We had a lot of fun watching old movies, playing cards, drinking wine and watching too many quarantine themes. When my parents sent care packages with hand sanitizers and Clorox wipes, he helped me unpack them. If I got anxious about the pandemic, he rubbed my back. We put on gloves and went for long walks (staying six feet apart!) We talked for hours. After a few days, we decided to become exclusive in the most millennial way ever: by removing all appointment apps from our phones. & # 39; I don't want to go with anyone else, & # 39; he told me. Neither have I. In texts and Zoom calls to my friends he is now officially quarantined Bae.
We learned so much that each other is in the neighborhood of quarantines, and that deepened our feelings in a very short time. Last week he told me he loves me. I said it – and I mean it. In a way, it feels as if we are being passed on quickly through the honeymoon period and straight into a comfortable relationship mode. We had arguments and came up with compromises. We ask each other for advice on work problems. He is a great comfort during this scary time, and I am grateful to have him. I never expected to find a boyfriend – or fall in love during isolation, but here we are. & # 39;
& # 39; His mother set us up. I live in Pennsylvania and he lives in Michigan, but we are both from Ohio. When I got home last spring, he was there too. We met, started texting and finally & # 39; some dates.
Since then we have been through to talk regularly and then not at all. But when we were in the same place, we would see each other, go on a date. In December, we agreed to be friends, even though we liked each other. We talk afterwards a bit, and then he haunts.
We haven't talked for about a month, and he sent out of the blue in early February. I was really surprised, but also very annoyed and frustrated. At this point, we really took it away. I told him, & # 39; I will stop assuming that we are anything but friends. & # 39;
But with the onset of the coronavirus outbreak, we started talking more. Now, we talk on the phone every day, we text each other, our FaceTime. We got to & # 39; a point where he told me: & # 39; I want to be more than friends, but I don't know what it looks like, & # 39; and I said the same.
I do feel like we started talking so much because we were more alone; he told me that initially it was why he was reaching out again. As someone who lives alone, and as someone who is extroverted, I have put a lot of effort into thinking about how long I am in this new reality. I worry about feeling isolated, but it makes me feel less alone.
It's so cliché, but I feel that the experience of a pandemic will really bring people together, and I think it brought us together. I don't know how long it's going to last, but it seems to me that we can & # 39; talk to each other a bit if we really freak out. Despite all his vagueness, I feel that I trust him now more, because he was there for me.
It is also very nice to get hooked or fall in love. It's always a bright spot in someone's life. To have it in the moment when things are scary and we don't know what's going on – why wouldn't you want it? I have that greedy excitement you feel when you crush someone. It's nice to feel it instead of feeling hopeless and scared. & # 39;