In 2019, it was easier to say than navigating the scary waters in your love life. There is the endless tide of dating apps. The fear of being haunted (and the temptation of the temptation to return the favor) persists. Even giving yourself one-on-one intimacy was damaged by guarding and in some cases by animal interference. Fortunately, ELLE columnist E. Jean is here to go through the relationship streams. She talked truthfully about everything, from moving in a partner to the future in the #MeToo era. Below is some of her best advice of the year.
About how a partner can move in soon
& # 39; What is the rush? & # 39; (February 2019 issue of ELLE)
About dealing with & # 39; lack of intimacy in & # 39; relationship
"He fights. He fumes. He flashes and fumbles in bed. Where's the excitement? Where are the orgasms? It's letters like this that get men so unpleasant in the Ask E column. He's certainly not the man for you I repeat: He is not the man for you. & # 39; (January 2019 issue of ELLE)
On the pressure to & # 39; wedding material & # 39; to be
& # 39; Who is & # 39; wedding material & # 39; exactly? Someone who cooks, does laundry, takes care of the vacuum cleaner, takes care of the children, brings home the bacon and asks how her master's day went when he greets him at the door, wearing nothing but earrings and earrings. & # 39; A Women's Fabric? Bah! & # 39; A woman wants to be CEO material. & # 39; A woman wants to be Olympic material. & # 39; A woman wants to be presidential material. & # 39; A woman, in short, has to do everything but & # 39; an outdated, patriarchal version of & # 39; marriage & # 39; be material. "Marriage is an excellent model for many people, but it has really given you a great compliment!" (March 2019 issue of ELLE)
What to say if & # 39; a friend asks: & # 39; Why are we even together? & # 39;
& # 39; He wants you to answer: & # 39; We are together because I cannot live without you and because you are a god among the people. & # 39; If you get bored of saying this, and if he doesn't bother to & # 39; have a real conversation, respond: & # 39; We are not & # 39 ;. And accept his invitation to go. & # 39; (May 2019 issue of ELLE)
About combating jealousy
& # 39; He may be & # 39; a good man, but I can safely assume she & # 39; of course, flirtatious & # 39; BS would make most partners jealous. Explain it to him, let him know how you feel, and ask him to cool it down. Lord! I hate it when smart women blame themselves so quickly. & # 39; (August 2019 issue of ELLE)
About dealing with a stationary love life
"Who said you should love a man right now? Leave your heart in the freezer, girl! Discover your freedom. It's a question of E. Jean: the one woman's freedom of love is the torment of the next woman, out of love, however, this law does not apply to kittens Kittens are alien genius Kittens keep the secret of & # 39; making yourself feel again & # 39; And one is waiting for you in & # 39; shelter. (March 2019 issue of ELLE)
On surfing male attention post #MeToo
"The only 100 percent guaranteed way to prevent men from crossing the line is to use a sedative gun. In the #MeToo era, every woman has to decide where her own line is and how firmly she will prevent every boss, preacher, teacher, colleague, old friend, and stranger from crossing it, she alone determines which response is & # 39; right & # 39; for her, and by choosing each of us , we empower the whole woman. & # 39; (September 2019 issue of ELLE)
When rejecting an office romance
& # 39; Over-react & # 39; woman! I love everything but the anger that boils inside your brain is fair! This man comes to you from all sides, defends your orders, destroys a pleasant workplace and bombs you with unwanted statements time and time again. You are his boss. You ask: & # 39; Responding? & # 39; Own it! Honor it! Be angry! Be astonished! Don't swallow it. Don't question it. This is confusing, because I think, under your anger is a sadness. He dares to declare his love, and your rejection causes pain. I'm sorry you have to go through this. And I'm sorry for the poor group. But we are living in a time of revolution. Eventually it will be angry. women who change the world. & # 39; (January 2019 issue of ELLE)
Read all the columns Ask E. Jean here.
Savannah Walsh is an editor at ELLE.com.